I knew it was a mistake to be honest on my profile!
eHarmony is based upon a complex matching system developed through extensive research with married couples. One of the requirements for successful matching is that participants fall within certain defined profiles. If we find that we will not be able to match a user using these profiles, we feel it is only fair to inform them early in the process.
We are so convinced of the importance of creating compatible matches to help people establish happy, lasting relationships that we sometimes choose not to provide service rather than risk an uncertain match.
Unfortunately, we are not able to make our profiles work for you. Our matching model could not accurately predict with whom you would be best matched. This occurs for about 20% of potential users, so 1 in 5 people simply will not benefit from our service. We hope that you understand, and we regret our inability to provide service for you at this time.eHarmony.com | Advice to Jim
There’s really not much I can add to that, is there? eHarmony.com ask you to fill out a detailed personality profile. It takes a good 20 minutes / half hour. To get to the end and be rejected is a sobering experience. To have a computer offer my personality to a huge database of single women and be told “Ummm… nope… ‘fraid none of them are interested”.
Ah well, I only completed the profile out of curiosity. I went on a computer arranged date a couple of years ago and the one thing I learnt was that I won’t be going on any more of them. Woody Allen actually tried to buy the rights to that date for a scene in a movie. And then there’s speed-dating… someone I know is trying that, and recommended I go along some night. Speed-dating. Can you imagine?
Like 20 short job interviews in an evening; except in each one it’s your soul being assessed, not your academic qualifications. Whoopee doo.